Sometimes being a mommy can be a lonely job. I'm usually okay riding solo with C, but occasionally I really miss the companionship that comes from having female cohorts. Mr. K is awesome & is obviously my BFF (as far as the husband/wife BFF relationship can go, that is) & I do have my old school BFF of years, but we don't exactly live all that close. Lately, I've only seen said BFF MAYBE once weekly (if that) for a few hours at a time. Not to mention, we couldn't be at more different places in our lives right now. My BFF is currently single & childfree. The stories she tells about her day to day just seem so long ago for me. My life is all about my family right now & hers seems to be about partying, having fun & hooking-up. I just feel like we're not as close as we used to be & I find myself not being able to relate to a lot of the troubles she is currently going through.
I love both my BFF & my DH, but I seriously wish I had some more Mommy friends. The ones I do have are either too far away for play-dates or are just too busy with their own lives & families to really get together more often then once every month or so. And I really do think it would help C to be around children more often since he likely won't be getting any daycare experiences before he starts a preschool.
So you're probably thinking to yourself about now...why doesn't she just join a meet-up group or take the kid to the library for story-time or something? And yes, I could do those things, but I am afraid of rejection. I literally feel like I am back in grade school in those situations & we are picking teams. I was always afraid to be the last one picked. Does that even make sense to anyone besides me? I tend to come off as confident & carefree to a lot of people, but in these situations I am 100% not. I may not care what most people think of me in general, but I do care about looking like a total friendless loser (especially in front of my kid).
I'll just say, I am not a naturally friendly personality. Nor do I tend to be that person that everyone is drawn to & wants to be friends with. I'm not standoffish or rude, but I guess I just don't give off that vibe that some people do. I'm sure you know the one I'm talking about...some of you even have that je ne sais quoi (Kara/Brittney/Laura E.). You make it easy for people to like you IMMEDIATELY. I'm not that way & tend to be shy & feel uncomfortable in social situations where I don't know anyone. I guess I can try to put myself in one of these social settings & hope against hope that a person (like one of you) takes pity on me, but maybe C & I will just sit there alone & be in the same situation we're always in (ALONE), but in a room full of people.
One of my goals this year was to make at least one new Mommy friend. I've made a few, but I hope that by the end of the year I can say that I made one new GOOD friend not just another aquantance. =(
Ditto this!
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